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The Longer Lasting Lover A Review Of Premature Or Rapid Ejaculation Is It Actually Necessary To Treat Premature Ejaculation? I'd like to add some final thoughts on whether or not it is actually necessary to treat premature ejaculation. Considering that this website has been all about the various treatment approaches to PE that may seem like an odd question. However, there are some issues here which go beneath the surface and are worthy of brief consideration. For one thing, I accept totally that any man who has such a severe problem with sexual self-control that he ejaculates before he's entered his partner - or even just after he's entered her - needs some effective treatment, not least because of the distress that such early ejaculation can cause both partners (not to mention any potential difficulty in starting a family, if that's what a couple wish to do). But it's not really that category of premature ejaculation that I'm talking about here: it's more about men who can last for a reasonable length of time and yet who have a lingering sense of dissatisfaction with their sexual performance. First of all, I'd like any man in this situation to tease out the degree to which his perception of himself as having a problem comes from a belief that he needs to satisfy his female partner during sex. While that's an extremely common viewpoint among men in our Western society, it's actually outmoded and outdated. Women are responsible for their own sexual satisfaction, and even if we've all been culturally seduced to believe that men have a responsibility to ensure that a woman is totally sexually fulfilled, there is certainly equal responsibility on the woman to ensure that she gets what she wants during sex. Simply complaining about her man's performance afterwards, rather than addressing the situation directly is unhelpful, if not downright perverse. And, having said that, I recognize that for most men - including, probably, you - the desire to satisfy a woman in bed is strong as it has always been. But that puts an added responsibility on you, and if you have a marked case of premature ejaculation it adds to your level of anxiety. The only thing you can do in this situation is to either seek treatment to extend the length of time for which you are able to continue thrusting during vaginal intercourse, or adopt a totally different strategy which means that the woman is fulfilled even if she doesn't have long lasting penile penetration. The best approach, at least in my opinion, is for a man to ensure that his woman has achieved orgasm before he even thinks about entering her vagina -- at least most of the time (there will always be occasions where a couple just simply want the contact and pleasures of intimacy that come from the connection of sexual penetration). But even with this scenario you arrive back at the difficulty that if you become so aroused after penetration that you ejaculate quickly, you will lose the very objectives for which you are setting out in the first place. Once again therefore it would seem to be necessary to seek treatment for PE so that you can last longer during sex. So, if that's the predominant way in which you and your partner wish to engage in intercourse, then please seek treatment to try and obtain a greater measure of self-control. But once again I have to qualify that last comment by adding that another option is for a man to enter a woman and remain still within her vagina, and this can be a very powerful and intimate act. The problem is that she's likely to want a degree of sexual movement to stimulate the very sensitive spots inside her vagina to gain significant sexual pleasure. What all this means for me is that it's a good idea for a man and a woman to have a way of satisfying sexual desire without relying on intercourse. And one way this can be achieved is by giving the woman an orgasm through finger play and oral sex before penetration. While women do respond very rapidly to G spot stimulation when they're already sexually aroused, I believe, from my experience with hundreds of men, that it's impossible for almost any man to last long enough during vaginal intercourse to bring her to the orgasm that would inevitably result should thrusting continued for long enough. In fact, I think on average it takes 15 or 20 minutes (or even more) of vaginal thrusting with average force before a woman reaches orgasm through stimulation of her G spot. What follows from this observation for me is the fact that the best way to sexually satisfy a woman is to give her an orgasm through oral sex and finger play, using your finger to stimulate her G spot until she is satisfied and has achieved one or more orgasms. After a brief period of respite, it's then appropriate for you to enter her and enjoy her sexually aroused and swollen vagina (she will always take longer to return to normal after orgasm than a man). You can enjoy the warmth of her tumescent flesh, and after her orgasm she will be both psychologically and emotionally ready to take you into her body in a way that she wouldn't without an orgasm having already happened. Now at this stage, would it matter if you lasted two minutes before you came? I think this is the point at which we have to go back to the definition of premature ejaculation and consider the individual variability in what's sexually satisfying for a couple. What you'll probably find is that it's most likely that a woman in this situation is actually satisfied with the level of physical intimacy, and even if you as a man experience a rapid ejaculation, you'll still probably find the whole sexual experience so arousing that your orgasm will be extremely intense and rewarding. So even though your intercourse may be of limited duration, this sexual scenario probably allows both members of the couple to achieve a high level of satisfaction, intimacy and fulfillment ... which leads me back to the question: "Is it necessary to treat premature ejaculation in all cases?" Perhaps that is something that only you can decide for yourself. The effect of PE on a couple and their relationship Is premature ejaculation natural? Premature climax in men - what is early ejaculation, and how common is it?
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